Good morning and thanks for all loyal readers.
Lets see people around you.
Can you recognize a potential people who can be a next leader?
Leader is not related with title, high role in company, etc.
Leader is a people who have a trust to lead by others.
Hmn, its easy to understand a statement but hard to find a potential leaders.
Okay, lets see some example.
Captain America, from Avengers team.
What can you see from him?
Powerful, extraordinary, clever, brilliant.
Yes, but what makes him choose as a leader for Avengers team?
If related with power, I remember that he always fight with Iron Man, to find the best from them.
If related with clever, black widow is more smart from other team member.
Captain America has a power to serve peoples and team with humble.
He’s not think about him self, always think about how to help peoples and world.
As a leader, he know better, what is best aspects of his team.
He identify best people with experience, like reading a book or see a painting.
One of biggest aspects, is integrity, as citizen of America.
Although he had a bad experiences with world war II, but he always see from big picture.
Many experiences teach him to learn from good and bad times, to be positive thinking person.
I remember, a ton of times internal conflict, especially come from Iron Man and Hulk.
But, he can manage it with proper way.
That’s a quality of great leader.
That’s why, finally, Iron Man can accept him as a, Avengers Leader.
They choose by heart and not by force.
Okay, let see another example from real life.
I bet you know him so well.
He’s one of great and powerful America’s president in history.
What makes hims a great leader?
He’s modest, and humble.
He know the human basic needs.
He played a vital role in unification of the states and led from the front for the cause of abolishing slavery from the country, eventually giving people equal rights, irrespective of caste, color or creed.
With this approach, he can see a potential, not only from “high class”people,but also from “low level / slave” people.
He’s generous, like to read and tell to everybody.
He share experiences and makes others potential in higher level.
Of course, he had a great integrity and loyalty to his country.
He did all he can, not only as role a president, but more to improve a quality and better future of life in America.
How many of you find a relativity of above picture with your self?
Maybe you are a big boss, or manager with small team and terrific boss?
Yes, on office life, we can find a lot of cases of this.
I share my experiences about “nice” boss and great leader.
Once upon a time, many years back, I was a new comer in office, with only entry level position.
I have direct local boss (manager). He always blame me for everything I did.
Using headphone, always work long hours, etc.
Actually, he one of person in office who only has 1-2 friend, and not humble to everybody.
I can not manage my work properly since he always blame me for every little things.
I become frustrated that time.
This person had not personal contact with everybody, mostly giving order by email or phone, or indirect contact.
He always busy and not approachable.
On the other side, one day, Regional CEO come to our office.
I don’t know what, I am surprise about him.
He’s so humble, always answer any little questions with generous.
He share with us about how to deals with good and bad times in business and how to maintain positive thinking.
He said, that every time, we can approach him, by email or phone, and promise to reply as soon as possible.
After his first visit, I curious and want to learn directly from him.
So, I write an email and send directly to his email.
I ask about how to be a good employee, what can I do from him, what is best learning point, etc.
He replied in 5 working days with nice email and learning point.
I am amazed. He’s very top level in our Regional office (lead/CEO for more than 5 countries), but he made his promise.
After that, I regularly contact with him, once a month, to tell everything about local condition.
One day, I got a chance to training to his country.
I ask him to meet on his office and he’s agree.
Before that, I create a book of articles that contain hundreds of pages of my ideas about how to improve company’s performance.
I met him and had 10 minutes discussion.
It’s a wonderful time for me to learn.
Then, he gave me a business book to read.
I share you a different between great leader and nice boss.
Great leader is lead people with heart.
I share you my recent experience.
When I was in office, I had 2 potential subordinates.
I always share them all of my knowledge.
Now, after they leave the office, they have a higher role than me now.
I am not jealous with them.
In fact, I am happy since I can produce a better leader in future.
That’s my role as a leader, produce more leader.
Entrepreneur / business owner
I share my friend experience.
Few years ago, he create his own business.
He create a system, manage people, and other business owner did.
In other side, my other friend create one business also.
So, we deal with 2 different peoples, let say A and B.
A, open business in product (food and beverage), while B open business in service (marketing, IT).
A create a new taste in market, he not always chasing the profit.
Beside that, he generous to everybody.
He open his kitchen to show to customers about how the cook with clean process.
Once a week, he create a little show to customers, to show how to create the food.
He’s humble and approachable by many customers.
Of course, some of customers could copy his recipe, but he don’t mind.
He always think again new recipe for customers.
Once, he see a loyal customers has a potential for his business.
Then he told him to join and now become loyal employee.
B, is a business owner who always see about profit and never want to take a risk and loss.
He never allow people to learn about his business process and always do it by him self.
He’s not humble to employee and have no personal connection with them.
End of story, business who lead by A has grown into 3 new store while B is still with 1 original store.
A has so many loyal employee while B has new employee every 6 months.
Great leader will follow by great people.
Father is leader of family.
But, what kind of leader of him?
- He must have an integrity, show his family a direction. Like a ton of fish in ocean to move to another ocean each year.
- He must humble, generous to his family. He always giving his time for family’s time.
- He must have a positive thinking and learn the good and bad time.
- He know a potential aspects of his family. E.g a wife is good at managing home and children.
What ever your father or mother in your home, they are our leader.
To be a great leader, you must:
- Understand and treat people like you self. They are humans, no matter of level in life.
- Humble and generous to others. Remember, the more you give, the more you receive.
- Integrity. It’s very important. Like a personal branding. Its a way people see you and can predict you in future relationship.
- Positive thinking and always learn from good and bad time.
- Bring it together to be a real you in life.
To close this article, I share you some of life leadership quotes (taken fro google image).
To find another article about 10 habits of like-able leaders, you can read a full article, as follow.
What follows are 10 key behaviors that emotionally intelligent leaders engage in that make them so likable.
1. They form personal connections.
Even in a crowded room, likable leaders make people feel like they’re having a one-on-one conversation, as if they’re the only person in the room that matters. And, for that moment, they are. Likable leaders communicate on a very personal, emotional level. They never forget that there’s a flesh-and-blood human being standing in front of them.
2. They’re approachable.
You know those people who only have time for you if you can do something for them? Likable leaders truly believe that everyone, regardless of rank or ability, is worth their time and attention. They make everyone feel valuable because they believe that everyone is valuable.
3. They’re humble.
Few things kill likeability as quickly as arrogance. Likable leaders don’t act as though they’re better than you because they don’t think that they’re better than you. Rather than being a source of prestige, they see their leadership position as bringing them additional accountability for serving those who follow them.
4. They’re positive.
Likable leaders always maintain a positive outlook, and this shows in how they describe things. They don’t have to give a presentation to the board of directors; they get to share their vision and ideas with the board. They don’t have to go on a plant tour; they get to meet and visit with the people who make their company’s products. They don’t even have to diet; they get to experience the benefits of eating healthfully. Even in undeniably negative situations, likable leaders emanate an enthusiastic hope for the future, a confidence that they can help make tomorrow better than today.
5. They’re even-keeled.
When it comes to their own accomplishments and failures, likable leaders take things in stride. They don’t toot their own horns, nor do they get rattled when they blow it. They savor success without letting it go to their heads, and they readily acknowledge failure without getting mired in it. They learn from both and move on.
6. They’re generous.
We’ve all worked for someone who constantly holds something back, whether it’s knowledge or resources. They act as if they’re afraid you’ll outshine them if they give you access to everything you need to do your job. Likable leaders are unfailingly generous with whom they know, what they know, and the resources they have access to. They want you to do well more than anything else because they understand that this is their job as a leader and because they’re confident enough to never worry that your success might make them look bad. In fact, they believe that your success is their success.
7. They demonstrate integrity.
Likable leaders inspire trust and admiration through their actions, not just their words. Many leaders saythat integrity is important to them, but likable leaders walk their talk by demonstrating integrity every day. Even a leader who oozes charm won’t be likable if that charm isn’t backed by a solid foundation of integrity.
8. They read people like a book.
Likable leaders know how to read people as unspoken communication is often more important than the words people say. They note facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice in order to get what’s really going on with their people. In other words, they have high social awareness, a critical EQ skill.
9. They appreciate potential.
Robert Brault said, “Charisma is not so much getting people to like you as getting people to like themselves when you’re around.” Likable leaders not only see the best in their people, but they also make sure that everyone else sees it too. They draw out people’s talents so that everyone is bettering themselves and the work at hand.
10. They have substance.
Daniel Quinn said, “Charisma only wins people’s attention. Once you have their attention, you have to have something to tell them.” Likeable leaders understand that their knowledge and expertise are critical to the success of everyone who follows them. Therefore, they regularly connect with people to share their substance (as opposed to superficial small talk). Likable leaders don’t puff themselves up or pretend to be something they’re not, because they don’t have to. They have substance, and they share it with their people.
Bringing it all together
Likeability isn’t a birthright; it results from acquirable skills that are crucial to your professional success. And just like any other professional skills, you can study the people who have them, copy what works, and adapt them to your own style. Try these ten strategies and watch your likeability soar.
Author: Travis Bradberry, Co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and President at TalentSmart
Date: 5 October 2015.