11 Tips to De-Stress Your Life

Do you always happy?

Never found a stress in your life?

Poor you…..not lucky you….

Stress comes from problems that will brings up our personality into stronger person.

I am not a strong person, but I always deals with that.

Okay, lets see on office worker problems, 9 AM – 5 PM.

1. Wake up in morning.

It’s a lucky if you had 8 hours sleep at night, but what if don’t. Most of employees have to spent more than 8 hours a day in office, excluding traffic, lunch time, outside meeting, etc.

Then, it will consume another sleep time at night.

Just keep your sleep on normal balance.

You don’t know what disease will kill you in next 10 years, just do to lack of sleep.

2. Traffic.

For big cities, like Jakarta, Kuala Lumpur, Singapore, Hong-Kong, New York, Los Angles, etc, traffic is consume more than 20% of your daily stress.

Especially for Jakarta, people must spend between 1 – 5 hours or more, just to deals with traffic, every day.

Insane, right. Yes, but we need to deals with that.

5 years ago, I stay for 30 km from city, and spend 4 hours a day.

To deal with that, I was search for near fitness center near office.

I did went very early in morning and only spent 30 minutes rather than 2 hours.

Then, I run for sport and go to office in healthy body.

Lately, I move to city and found plenty room saving from traffic consumption.

3. Meeting.

The ideal # meeting is only 4 times a days.

What about if you had 6-8 meetings in a row a day?

I have been there and it’s crazy and very stressful.

To deal with that, I always asking peoples who invite me in, to send the agenda and reason invite me.

After that, I analyst whether I can answer/give the opinion/response by email or before a meeting, or must attend it.

Breakdown it then you would found that the #meeting could streamline for almost 50%.

It’s a good way to reduce your stress, isn’t it?

4. Target work.

This is the most critical in your work.

Most of your time, you would have more than 5 deadline in a day.

Wow, it’s a big target, right.

Also, consume more than 50% of your daily stress.

Based on my experience, I did a separation of task.”

It divided the status into “normal”, “important”, “very important”, “now”.

“Normal” means you can postpone it for couple days.

“Now” means right now. Usually given by CEO, BoD, BoC, and other very senior member.

What you can do is negotiation.

Ask them about target date and your list of work.

Usually, they can understand and give you an additional few hours or even a day.

5. Office colleagues work.

You are worker in office and have a team or even another people in other department.

Some of them nice but some of them don’t.

Even someone in your team would “kill” you in a meeting.

Like a war, you are responsible for your own role.

To deals with that, you must accept them.

They can not change in a second.

Just remember that every human is a unique people.

Accept it and you can reduce the stress.

As same as you accept a bad habit of your life partner or even your children’s.

Okay, then we move to business owner.

Most of problems are comes from:

1. Four “P”.

You can search on 4 P, but the ideas related with Price, Product, Promotion, and Place.

You can have the best four P, but it would not last forever.

Change is a key to adapt with that.

2. Competitor.

You have a thousand competitors that would kill you in a second.

3. System, Innovation, and Employees.

These are internal factors.

Use a SWOT analysis, Six sigma, and another process excellent.

4. Regulation.

You can be a success business owner but you can not beat a regulation.

Basically, to reduce a stress you must always Grateful, stay healthy, focus, and be brave to cope with stress.

You can read another article from another author, as follow.


11 Tips to De-Stress Your Life

1. Identify triggers.

Melissa Eisler states on the Chopra Center website that “Recognizing the triggers to your stressful reactions is an important first step in managing your stress.” She suggests you can discover these triggers by asking obvious questions like “What stresses you out? And how do you react to it?”

After figuring out what exactly is working you up, you can create a list of your top triggers and then work on eliminating them if possible, or at least changing your reactions.

2. Be healthy.

It’s been proven time and time again that one of the best ways to relieve stress is by being healthy. Whether it’s going for a walk, taking a yoga class, staying away from treats like doughnuts and getting a good night’s rest, taking care of your body is one of the most common and effective ways to reduce stress in your life.

I find that when I’m healthiest in my life, I have the least amount of stress.

3. Get organized.

Whether it’s in the home or at the workplace, disorganization is one of the most common stress triggers. After all, it’s frustrating when you can never find that one thing you’re looking for. That’s why you should not only straighten up your home or office, but develop a system to keep it organized. Woman’s Day has 100 Organizing Tips that you should check out.

4. Stop procrastinating.

The Association for Psychological Science states that “people who procrastinate have higher levels of stress and lower well-being.” To help you get out of this harmful trip, Leo Babauta suggests you create a Do It Now (DIFN) habit. Do your most important task first or only work on a challenging project for 10-minutes.

5. Turn off your phone.

Richard Balding, a psychologist in the department of psychology at the University of Worcester, England discovered that smartphones can lead to stress. Why? Because they have created “a relentless need to immediately review and respond to each and every incoming message, alert, or bing.”

While you can’t keep the phone off 24/7, you should have certain times planned throughout the day to keep the phone off for a little piece of mind.

6. Do something that makes you happy.

Between all of your obligations and responsibilities, you may think you no longer have time for the hobbies that used to make you happy. To reduce the stress in your life, make the time to do something pleasurable. It could be something as simple as enjoying your favorite show, taking a nap, going to the movies, talking to a friend, listening to your favorite music, or planning a vacation to your favorite destination.

7. Stop filling up the calendar.

Commitments never end. Between work, your family, social activities and civic duties, you have a full schedule. This becomes a problem when commitments conflict with each other or begin to overrun your life.

If you edit your list of commitments, you will likely notice you suddenly do have some much needed free time, which will help destress your life. We all have the same 24 hours in each day – what are you filling your hours with?

8. Accept people for who they are.

Is there anything more frustrating than a coworker who chews with their mouth open or the spouse who never washes dishes or the neighbor who blasts their music too loudly? No matter how much the people closest in your life add to your stress level, you have to accept them for who they are.

Daylle Deanna Schwartz, recommends on the Huffington Post that you use Reality Training, which “means recognizing that if you want to be happy, you need to accept people as they are and find ways to deal with how they are, or don’t.”

9. Be grateful.

Research from renowned psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough discovered “Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism, and lower levels of depression and stress.”

Mark Williams and Danny Penman authors of “Mindfulness: An Eight Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World,” suggested on CNN that you perform a 10-finger gratitude exercise everyday. This simply means thinking of 10 things you’re grateful for.

10. Avoid multitasking.

We’re all extremely busy, which is why multitasking seems like a great idea on paper, but actually only adds to our already stressful lives. According to David Meyer, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan (via Chris Woolston, MS on HealthDay) “ juggling tasks can be very stressful. In the short-term, stress makes you feel lousy. In the long-term, it can become a serious threat to health.”

If you need assistance with avoiding multitasking, check out these tips from Zen Habits.

11. Pucker up.

WebMD cites a study led by Laura Berman, Ph.D., assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and ob-gyn at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, which studied 2,000 couples. The study discovered that couples who only kiss during lovemaking are “eight times more likely to report suffering from stress and depression than those who frequently kiss on the spur of the moment.”

Dr. Berman states: “Kissing relieves stress by creating a sense of connectedness, which releases endorphins, the chemicals that counteract stress and depression.”

Besides making you happier, lowering your stress level has proven medical benefits. So, grab your favorite book, pucker up, be grateful for what you have, and stop over scheduling yourself. Taking just a few of these steps will lead to a happier, healthier you.



Author John Rampton, 23 December 2014.

Access on 27 July 2015


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